ANGER- FORGIVENESS - DIVINE INDIFFERENCE

To be angry with someone is to remain in that person's power;  to forgive that person is to continue to share a relationship with him or her but with the power relationship inverted.  True healing for me has meant stepping beyond both relationships to Buddha's divine indifference - the past is acknowledged but without emotion.

KINDLE E-BOOK

http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B000APOJP2

“Extraordinary. . . As telling a chronicle of the times as The Catcher in the Rye or To Kill a Mocking Bird.”  

- Jill Johnston, New York Times Book Review

She was a bubbly child, a popular teenager, and an award-winning journalist. Yet, from the age of seven, Sylvia Fraser shared her body with a ‘twin’ who lived a separate life from her. This other self was created to do the things Sylvia was too frightened, too ashamed, too repelled to do - the secret things her father made her do.  For four decades Sylvia had no knowledge of this sexual relationship with her father. Her astonishing memoir reveals how she broke through amnesia to discover and embrace the tortured self she left behind.  This is a testament to courage, and to the ability and wisdom of forgiving others in order to forgive one’s self. 

“My Father’s House has the tension and pace of a detective novel - except that the detective is part of the narrator’s self, and so is the murder victim.  A beautifully written and ultimately healing story by an amazing and courageous woman.”

Margaret Atwood

MY FATHER'S HOUSE: a Memoir of Incest and of Healing

Over twenty years ago, I wrote the book "My Father's House: a Memoir of Incest and of Healing" - one of the first books to break the silence on this taboo subject.  The response was overwhelming, not only from other survivors of abuse who were able to identify with my story, but also from therapists who were ill-prepared to deal with the suffering and confusion of so many other abuse victims suddenly finding their voices.  Now, with the power and reach of the new social media, I find that a whole new wave of abuse survivors have been contacting me. In response, I decided to make "My Father's House" available through Kindle, and to set up this forum to discuss some of the issues that I have encountered through the years, both from my own experience and from the shared experiences of others.  

I will attempt to post regularly on matters of mutual interest, and I hope to hear from you.